Please check what you PHP session settings are in an output of a <?php phpinfo(); ?> script. It might be that your session.domain setting is set to a different domain that your blog is running on?
You can check if the PHP sessions are working if you login to the backend WITHOUT checking the "remember me" button?
About the proxy: You should know if you need to connect to the internet by using a HTTP proxy? Did you set that up in your browser?
If it fails in both IE AND Firefox, the HTTP referrer issue is out of question and it should be related to Proxy or Session issues.
It could also be some aggressive Internet-Antivirus software that transforms HTTP calls; are you using any extra software on your system?
About disabling the XSRF detection: There is no option for that, but you could edit your include/functions_config.inc.php file and search for the serendipity_checkXSRF() function. After
you could just insert
to bypass all checks.
Regards,
Garvin